Divorce Impacts Kids As Much, Maybe More, Than Parents

My parents divorced when I was six. In 1970, divorce far less common. I was one of only a few kids in school with divorced parents. And it earned me teasing. Adults weren't sympathetic either. Some, usually those in my parents' singles groups, would say I was lucky. My parents had a good divorce. Aka, they didn't fight and were still "friends." Their tone implied that I should be grateful, not complain nor even discuss feelings. Nobody seemed to care how the kid felt. Their concern was for the adults.   Divorce Impacts Kids As Much, Maybe More, Than Parents

Relationship Glue Recipe: Don't Ask, Don't Tell is a Bad Policy

Don't you love the cellphone selfie photos my husband and I take? We're getting better at it, though we're still no technoratis! Anyway, I have been writing a series of articles on Relationship glue recipes and today's topic is: when in doubt, ask. Sometimes, some really awkward issues. come up on relationships. If you are unsure about something, say whether your spouse is cheating, has an addiction, or is doing something dangerous, ask.

As uncomfortable as it makes you, even if you don't want to hear the answer, don't like the answer, don't think the person won't tell the truth, etc. Still, ask. It's better than letting a bunch of suspicions rattle painfully in your head. Don't hide from it. Don't ask, Don't tell is not a good policy. Read on  Relationship Glue Recipe: Dont Ask, Dont Tell Does Not Work