Relationship Glue Recipe: Solidarity, Solidarity, Solidarity

My husband and I started dating in 1982, have been married for 26 years, only to each other, kids only with each other. We've made a lot of mistakes along the journey, but learned a great deal too. I'm writing a series of relationship glue recipe tips from that experience. The word of the day for September 26, 2013 is: Solidarity. Relationship Glue Recipe: Solidarity, Solidarity, Solidarity

Relationship Glue Recipe--Do a Scarlett OHara, Think About It Later

My husband and I have been married 26 years, only to each other and have kids only between us. We've dated since 1982 and never lived together till we were married. For better or for worse, many people say how unusual our ultra-traditional relationship is today. I don't know about unusual. We ourselves are a little weird! (permission to nod). But we also get asked how we stay together. This is part of a series on Relationship Glue Recipes--today's is Do a Scarlett O'Hara. Think about it tomorrow. Relationship Glue Recipe--Do Like Scarlett OHara--Really!

The Power of Positive Thinking and Negative Self-Expression in Relationships

I read a lot about the importance of positivity. Yes, that's a word. And yes, I agree, it's a little schmaltzy. There's a resurgence of dogma in the vein of Norman Vincent Peale's Power of Positive Thinking.If anyone dares mention something deemed "negative" these days, the positive fringe hounds them to paste a smile on, shun negativity and all will be better.  Frankly, I find it tedious, naive and superficial. With all due respect to positive, which certainly has it's place, I'm going to put in a word for the power, even importance of negativity. I like to sprinkle a little sand of doubt in the oyster of mainstream thinking, especially when it seems to good to be true. And being eternally sunny isn't possible or healthy. Read more The Power of Positive and Negative Thinking